One Little Change Can Lead To:
Better Relationships With Your Kids
With the new year, we all feel like a fresh start is at hand. And it is! We can start the year looking forward to a better family life and making changes that lead to better parenting.
And probably, all of us have written some type of Parenting goals as part of our New Year’s Resolutions. Some of us maybe have a long list of “To Dos” and “Don’t do’s”. How many do we end up implementing at the end? In the past, I’ve written long resolution lists that were not practical and ended up never used.
Somehow, everyday life gets in the way of our good intentions. Our habits and the stress of getting things done and time ticking by so fast can get the best of us and the best of our time and attention for our children.
Only One New Year’s Resolution
This year, I’m sticking to just ONE New Year’s Parenting resolution. I believe that if I can just follow this one Parenting Resolution it will not only change me to be a better parent but also improve our family life, relationships and impact how I lead my whole life.
THE SECRET TO BETTER PARENTING
Lately, a quote has changed my perspective on life and time spent with my family. I believe it’s the secret to be great parents!
Wherever You Are Be All There – Jim Elliott
A genius statement that can change our attitude towards all of our relationships.
What do you mean I’m not all there?
Have you ever tried to engage someone in conversation who was distracted and didn’t give you full eye contact? They might be there present physically but their mind is somewhere else. None of us would feel comfortable pouring our hearts out to someone with such behavior.
Do our children feel like that?
Parenting Resolution: Be Fully Present
The parent version of the quote cited above would read as:
Give your children your full attention.
Be fully present engaging them in that moment.
Such an easy statement to think on but difficult to implement while looking at piles of laundry, trying to finish dinner and attending to children.
Practical Tips To Be Present In The Moment
1. BE FULLY PRESENT IN THE MOMENT
We definitely can’t be in two places at once. Neither can we give full attention to two tasks at once. So put the phone down and play with your kids. Check email while their napping or during quiet time.
2. JOY IN THE MOMENT
Enjoy the little blessings of each day. Don’t just go thru the motions. See each bath time, bedtime as a unique opportunity to interact with your child. To enjoy a moment of fun or teaching that might not be repeated.
3. PEACE IN THE MOMENT
Relaxing and keeping the right perspective in the midst of a mess is a tough one for moms and dads. But this moment shall pass. You might not remember it in a weeks time. However, your children might remember how you treated them forever.
4. ENGAGE IN THE MOMENT
Actively listen when your kids share their hearts with you. Children are not always ‘convenient’. Seems like they need our attention in the most inopportune times.
It can be so easy to just let them talk while we think about all the housework, work, and errands that need to be done. Make the decision to put aside the to do pile and listen.
Giving your full attention to them will make them feel valued and loved. They will safe sharing their heart with you. It might only take a few minutes to talk but their hearts will be satisfied for a lifetime!
Hope these ideas help us all become better parents in this year.
Thanks for reading. Would love to hear how you are fully present with your children.
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